When we're mad and our mind are spinning with vengeance, it's natural to wish the worst upon the person we're mad at. At some point, whether your friend betray you or your neighbor stole your cash or even something so simple like your parents forgot your birthday, we've all feel the pain of the broken unwritten promises.
It's really natural for us, for our head are spinning with vengeance, and you just want to curse that damned person, or even wish for the worst upon them. In fact if you could still be angry, it's a prove that you're still a well living human being that have soul and feelings.
But keep in mind, no matter how dirty the mistake or crime was, playing the victim card doesn't make you a better person, nor make your problems go away instantly.
It is how you handle your manners, your resentments, hold your anger that shows how strong your character are.
We all can choose, to hold a grudge and kept that hate bubble inside us poisoning our thoughts and mind. Or we can learn how to forgive.
There's no correct answers for each circumstances but only strong (mentally) people who can overcome their own anger and gracefully show their forgiveness. Forgivers tend to have some insights that allow their minds to overcome the bad doings of someone they had high respect for.
Here are the 7 things we can learn to overcome our anger in order to forgive :
Be Compassionate
Even if we don't agree with the intentions of someone, we must be able to open our mind and think about other's motives. Seeing things with other's perspective will makes it a lot easier to give up all the feelings of resentment.
Be Realistic
Remember that nobody is perfect, and there aren't just good and bad people as simple as black and white. Others make mistakes, so do we. Learn from them and evolve through their lifetime.
Courage
It takes lot of courage, to re-open your heart somebody who has broke your trusts, to believe that the future is bright and to be unafraid of the possibility of your heart breaking again.
See the best in people
Keep in mind, nobody is purely evil. Look for the positive aspects in someone who has wronged you, they must have something good in them. Remember, everybody have a soft spot.
It's your choice
Use your heart. It's essential to take care of yourself as your life tends to swing back and forth in the direction of your thoughts. You don't want a negative mind to drive you away to a wretched life.
There're more things in life that can make you happy
Piece together your heart by doing something you love, whether it's writing a story, cuddling with your puppy, cooking wonderful foods, or even playing video games to get your mind off the way you were unfairly treated. Take a moment of silence and realize that the world is still spinning around.
Let it go
Don't ever hold on the past, it's beyond our control. If something happened, let it be, there's nothing you can do about it. Release all of that unnecessary negative feelings and thoughts. You're burdening yourself by holding on to it.
Remember, shit happens and life goes on.
Photo Courtesy : blog.clarityThe weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. -Mahatma Gandhi
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