In life, you'll have goals. On the way to achieving this goal, you'll encounter problems, one of the problems are the haters. Many tell us to ignore these comments but, it's better if you don't.
Listen to your haters, deliberately, every single word. Why? Because it will makes you angry, it'll infuriate you. It will likely irritate you to the point where you find yourself awake, with bloodshot eyes, thinking "How the hell am I going to make all these people eat their words?".
Hates are like bacteria, it's possible the amount of hates thrown at you will be doubled in a single night, and when you wake up tomorrow, you'll have a new bunch of haters.
Don't run from it. In fact, you can't run nor hide from it.
Everyone has haters, if you don't you're probably not doing anything or at least, not anything all that well. Hate will always follow success, like a shadow - always looking to cast some shade. Well, take a deep breath and accept it.
Of course, it's easier said than done, especially if they're going the physical path of destroying you. The thing is, the impact of their action will depends only in your hands. If you get discouraged your will discouraged by them, you'll lose, you'll be defeated.
It's a matter of perspective, and action. If you choose to harness that hate, and project it towards progression, you'll find yourself inspired. Don't limit yourself, never underestimate your own abilities. Others will do it for you. Your job is to prove that ability.
There's reasons why haters can motivate you,
1. They're just jealous.
If someone are hating on you, there's a huge chance they're jealous, in some way, shape or form. Usually, haters are simple-minded people. When they see someone shines brighter than them, but they can't have that light, their next mission is to steal it.
That's what people do when they can't empower themselves. They look to detract on others.
Before letting a hater knock you off your path. Stop and think. Be confident on what you do and tell yourself "He can't and won't be able to trade his place with mine right now".
Think more of yourself, respect yourself. Take their hate as compliments. If they are wasting enough of their time to put a hate on you, you are surely a big threat to them.
2. But a lot of times, they're right.
Other times, the hate you're dealing with may be justifiable. Maybe you're starting something new, like a new job or career, and are still learning the ropes. Or trying to do whatever you're learning to the next level. Maybe you're experimenting with your own personal style.
Be realistic. You're bound to slip and fall, even after achieving a success. Think that this isn't a failure, but learning. As we've been told by now, you learn from mistakes.
Although sometimes others see mistakes as the perfect opportunity to voice their opinions. Remember, while mistakes provide perfect opportunity for hate, these opportunity can't last forever. Mistakes are temporary, they can be fixed.
Try and see the silver lining in criticism. Hate can often ruin days, and you know something. That's fine, as long as tomorrow, you respond.
Accept hate, while it may not be exactly what you want to hear, learning from it might better you in a long run. Improvement is necessary for success, and "needs" should always prioritize before "wants".
3. They always light a fire under your ass.
It's the human nature. To play very well under pressure, or when they're mad.
You only need to click that trait, and start to learn how to do better when you're mad. Use the hate as your fuel. When someone tells you "you'll never make it", make it twice, and thank him for providing the motivation.
Receiving criticism, will provoke a pair of potential responses. You'll either bounce back, or bounce forward. That decision is for you to make.
4. They force a response.
It's fine to let criticism get to you, as long as you respond tomorrow.
Never react to haters, respond. Reactions are based on emotion, and emotions can be irrational. It's like impulses, impulses are never well-thought. In fact it didn't even contain a thought, just like reflexes.
Responses, on the other hand, are planned. They're formulated. They bear a meaning and they have a purpose.
5. You'll soon surpass them.
There's no better feeling than defying the odds. Even if the "odds" where the words of some hater. In that case, there's no better feelings than defying the words of these haters.
Embrace your haters, so that down the road, you can tell them "I told you so".
Even if you never speak like that, you never uttered those words, prove them wrong, while striving to empower yourself, you won't need to victimize others, just by doing so will leave them victim enough.
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